As a society, we tend to focus on the physical aspects of trying to get pregnant, and there is no shortage of physical concerns to worry about and talk about. But the process of getting pregnant is about a lot more than just your body. It also contributes to stress.

When you’re struggling with infertility, there are any number of reasons you may be feeling stressed. There’s all the pressure from happy couples around you, perhaps your friends and family, building their families and asking you when you’ll do the same. You may fear the time or financial cost associated with IVF, or you may worry that it won’t work for you and your partner.



Pregnancy Stress manifests differently for different people. You may experience:

  • Frustration
  • Anxious
  • Exhaustion
  • Fear
  • Isolation
  • Hopelessness
  • Change of appetite
  • Weight gain or loss
  • Insomnia
  • Depression



There are many effective ways to manage the stress of infertility.

Calm your fears: A fear of the unknown is completely normal. When you enter the world of fertility treatments, everything is unknown. And as soon as you become a parent, there is even more uncharted territory. Remember that this is new for everyone the first time. Do as much research as you need to in order to feel comfortable, and then accept that some fear is normal.

Check in with your partner: When you’re getting ready to become a parent, it’s easy to get swept away in baby names, parenting philosophies, nursery themes, and cute baby clothes. But it’s important that you don’t get so consumed with baby excitement that you lose sight of one another. Take time to check in with your spouse or partner on a regular basis. Talk about your hopes, dreams, and fears, and set aside some time to just focus on the two of you. Pretty soon, you won’t have as much alone time. Take advantage of it now.

Manage stress: If you’re struggling to get pregnant, you may be feeling all kinds of emotions from pregnancy stress and anxiety to anger and despair. It’s important to focus on self-care so you can manage stress and find inner peace. Not only is pregnancy stress emotionally taxing, but it can actually make it harder to get pregnant. To manage your pregnancy stress, try journaling, getting a massage, getting acupuncture, taking a nap, doing something creative like painting or knitting, or taking a warm bath.

Vent when necessary: Your friends and family may push you to focus on the positive all the time, but that can be exhausting. The reality is, infertility and IVF are stressful, and sometimes it’s important to let yourself just feel those negative emotions. If you have a trusted friend or therapist you can talk to, confide in them your fears and dark thoughts. If you don’t have someone to talk to about it, consider venting into a journal.

To learn more about how to prepare your mind for getting pregnant or to learn about our holistic approach to fertility and IVF treatment, contact us at (713) 467-4488.